1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.900 Hello, this is Salon de Pod with our wellness partner iHerb 2 00:00:03.901 --> 00:00:05.401 (Host Park So Hyun) Let's begin the show for today 3 00:00:05.401 --> 00:00:08.040 (Host Park Haneul) There's an event for subscribers today as well 4 00:00:08.040 --> 00:00:09.941 so please watch the video until the end 5 00:00:09.941 --> 00:00:14.440 This time, we also brought a 25% discount code for the iHerb house brands 6 00:00:14.440 --> 00:00:17.080 Please check the description for more information 7 00:00:17.080 --> 00:00:18.221 I have heard that 8 00:00:18.221 --> 00:00:23.081 (Excited) Today's guest might be someone that we really need 9 00:00:23.081 --> 00:00:24.781 I just heard a brief bio of this person 10 00:00:24.781 --> 00:00:26.840 (Explosion of curiosity) And I have so many questions, so excited! 11 00:00:26.840 --> 00:00:28.379 We always have so many questions LOL 12 00:00:28.380 --> 00:00:29.922 (Questioners, full of curiosity) We're always full of questions 13 00:00:29.923 --> 00:00:32.399 Curiosity Heaven 14 00:00:32.399 --> 00:00:35.200 I'm looking forward to what we'll talk about 15 00:00:35.201 --> 00:00:36.382 Let's invite our guest in 16 00:00:36.382 --> 00:00:38.199 Welcome 17 00:00:38.199 --> 00:00:40.700 (Enthusiastic entrance) Hello 18 00:00:40.700 --> 00:00:43.320 (Fancy Purple Dress) The purple dress is so pretty 19 00:00:43.320 --> 00:00:44.660 It looks good on you 20 00:00:44.660 --> 00:00:47.499 If I have to sit between these two pretty people 21 00:00:47.500 --> 00:00:49.240 my beauty needs to survive 22 00:00:49.240 --> 00:00:50.639 I can't be a squid 23 00:00:50.639 --> 00:00:51.959 You're so beautiful 24 00:00:51.959 --> 00:00:52.599 What are you talking about!? 25 00:00:52.599 --> 00:00:53.499 Haneul 26 00:00:53.499 --> 00:00:55.239 What you wore today to avoid being a squid 27 00:00:55.239 --> 00:00:57.080 (Unusual princess style Haneul) I'm different than usual 28 00:00:57.080 --> 00:00:59.430 It's so beautiful 29 00:00:59.430 --> 00:01:01.759 A strong will to not stay ugly! 30 00:01:01.759 --> 00:01:04.559 (Haneul has always been pretty!) I've worked so hard 31 00:01:04.559 --> 00:01:06.919 (Then...) Both of you are ready now... 32 00:01:06.920 --> 00:01:07.919 Do you have a boyfriend? 33 00:01:07.919 --> 00:01:09.939 (Teacher, please turn on the warning light :( ) We're in trouble 34 00:01:09.939 --> 00:01:11.400 That was a hard question to start with 35 00:01:11.400 --> 00:01:12.250 Teacher! 36 00:01:12.250 --> 00:01:14.659 Please introduce yourself first before all questions 37 00:01:15.899 --> 00:01:19.999 (Wow!!) I've been teaching in companies for more than 20 years 38 00:01:19.999 --> 00:01:21.549 I have been teaching leadership 39 00:01:21.549 --> 00:01:23.200 and communication at many companies 40 00:01:23.200 --> 00:01:25.480 (Cha Hee Yeon, psychologist and CEO of Marry People) Now I run a matchmaking company 41 00:01:25.480 --> 00:01:27.199 I'm Cha Hee Yeon 42 00:01:27.200 --> 00:01:30.557 (Love and Marriage 101 by a professional psychologist) 43 00:01:30.557 --> 00:01:32.857 (YouTube channel with 330K sub) 44 00:01:32.857 --> 00:01:35.438 (Psychologist and CEO of Marry People, Cha Hee Yeon) 45 00:01:35.439 --> 00:01:37.219 (Nice to meet you) 46 00:01:37.219 --> 00:01:39.300 (A true fan) I watched a lot of her YouTube videos 47 00:01:39.300 --> 00:01:41.260 (Time flies) There are so many fun things 48 00:01:41.260 --> 00:01:41.819 Right 49 00:01:41.820 --> 00:01:44.440 It's our first time 50 00:01:44.440 --> 00:01:46.959 With a guest who specializes in psychology 51 00:01:46.959 --> 00:01:49.320 (Credibility spikes up) So you are so credible to us 52 00:01:49.320 --> 00:01:53.159 I wonder how you got into psychology 53 00:01:53.159 --> 00:01:54.340 At first 54 00:01:54.341 --> 00:01:56.361 I majored in business administration and education 55 00:01:56.361 --> 00:01:59.199 (Two majors already?) And in education, you do curriculum development 56 00:01:59.199 --> 00:02:00.149 And for my curriculum development 57 00:02:00.149 --> 00:02:02.639 I was asked to have a certificate in psychology 58 00:02:02.639 --> 00:02:04.080 so I made one 59 00:02:04.080 --> 00:02:08.680 (Brain power FLEX, got masters to make most out of it) And I majored in it as well, because I studied for it anyways 60 00:02:08.680 --> 00:02:09.499 (Wow..!) So I did bachelor's and masters again 61 00:02:09.499 --> 00:02:10.800 You must've been a smart student 62 00:02:10.800 --> 00:02:12.520 (Humble) No, that's not true 63 00:02:12.520 --> 00:02:13.559 You must like studying 64 00:02:13.559 --> 00:02:16.080 Yeah, I'm sure she enjoyed the process 65 00:02:16.080 --> 00:02:19.279 (Triple major for a living) It's so called "for a living" 66 00:02:19.279 --> 00:02:20.269 We mentioned 67 00:02:20.269 --> 00:02:21.440 earlier briefly 68 00:02:21.440 --> 00:02:23.720 (Interest-provoking YouTube channel) we watch a lot of your YouTube videos 69 00:02:23.720 --> 00:02:25.260 And the topics are unique 70 00:02:25.260 --> 00:02:27.240 and they get lots of positive feedbacks 71 00:02:27.240 --> 00:02:29.559 (Q. Reasons why you make YouTube videos?) Can I ask for an introduction of your contents? 72 00:02:29.559 --> 00:02:31.479 I saw lots of YouTube channels 73 00:02:31.479 --> 00:02:32.639 and got upset the most in 74 00:02:32.639 --> 00:02:37.520 how they make videos about dating based on their own experiences 75 00:02:37.520 --> 00:02:39.339 Right 76 00:02:39.339 --> 00:02:40.560 But from the psychological perspecitve is 77 00:02:40.560 --> 00:02:41.719 that how the other reacts is 78 00:02:41.719 --> 00:02:46.279 (Really?!) based on my own preference and temperament 79 00:02:46.279 --> 00:02:47.620 That's why 80 00:02:47.621 --> 00:02:49.405 a dating skill or advise 81 00:02:49.406 --> 00:02:51.965 based on one's own experience 82 00:02:51.965 --> 00:02:54.639 may not be helpful for other people 83 00:02:54.639 --> 00:02:56.320 Because we are different people, right? 84 00:02:56.320 --> 00:02:57.039 Correct 85 00:02:57.039 --> 00:02:59.679 But when you chat with your friends 86 00:02:59.679 --> 00:03:03.520 they say something like "I've been there and it's your fault!" 87 00:03:03.520 --> 00:03:05.800 And they always ignore what I say 88 00:03:05.800 --> 00:03:08.440 (Real upsetting) I pour my heart out and advise them 89 00:03:08.440 --> 00:03:10.320 (Ugh.. what do you even know) they say "what do you know" 90 00:03:10.320 --> 00:03:12.740 They ignore me so much 91 00:03:12.740 --> 00:03:14.500 and I think that culture needs 92 00:03:14.501 --> 00:03:16.841 to be gone 93 00:03:16.841 --> 00:03:19.360 We make videos introducing academic papers 94 00:03:19.360 --> 00:03:22.160 Based on theories in psychology 95 00:03:22.160 --> 00:03:23.440 And among them 96 00:03:23.441 --> 00:03:28.466 Most of the videos are about dating, relationships, and flirting 97 00:03:28.466 --> 00:03:30.320 We talk about skills for flirting a lot, right? 98 00:03:30.320 --> 00:03:31.320 Right, I'm curious about it 99 00:03:31.320 --> 00:03:33.420 That flirting skill is a skill 100 00:03:33.421 --> 00:03:37.626 based on persuation and relationship skills in psychology 101 00:03:37.626 --> 00:03:39.240 So there are lots of theories regarding that 102 00:03:39.240 --> 00:03:40.300 I mean, seriously… 103 00:03:40.301 --> 00:03:42.361 I’m not good at convincing someone 104 00:03:42.361 --> 00:03:44.760 (Fun but sad lol) But I’m worse at flirting at someone 105 00:03:44.760 --> 00:03:48.199 Those are somehow in the same context 106 00:03:48.199 --> 00:03:49.619 That’s why I am… 107 00:03:49.620 --> 00:03:52.020 not good at my love life and also relationship 108 00:03:52.020 --> 00:03:53.799 I have some troubles in many ways 109 00:03:53.799 --> 00:03:55.280 But in the end 110 00:03:55.281 --> 00:03:57.684 (Flirting is deeply related to the basis of relationship) Eeverything starts from the beginning of relationship 111 00:03:57.684 --> 00:03:58.399 That’s true 112 00:03:58.399 --> 00:04:03.079 What do you think is the most important thing in a romantic relationship? 113 00:04:03.079 --> 00:04:04.269 We need a good start 114 00:04:04.269 --> 00:04:05.360 A good maintenance 115 00:04:05.361 --> 00:04:06.561 And a good breakup 116 00:04:06.561 --> 00:04:08.360 But most of all, you need to know how to flirt 117 00:04:08.360 --> 00:04:10.120 to make it happen to start with 118 00:04:10.120 --> 00:04:12.540 (It’s difficult to start..!) 119 00:04:12.540 --> 00:04:15.200 In fact, this beginning of the relationship 120 00:04:15.201 --> 00:04:16.861 And how it is maintained are very important 121 00:04:16.861 --> 00:04:18.739 Tell us more 122 00:04:18.739 --> 00:04:20.299 (Such an active request lol) In short 123 00:04:20.299 --> 00:04:22.440 I can understand very well in theory 124 00:04:22.440 --> 00:04:25.799 (Difficulty level in reality: impossible) But in real life, this is such a difficult process 125 00:04:25.799 --> 00:04:26.320 Right 126 00:04:26.320 --> 00:04:28.320 (Before that!) Before we talk more about it 127 00:04:28.320 --> 00:04:29.679 (What’s Haneul’s type?) What is your type, Haneul? 128 00:04:29.679 --> 00:04:31.780 (Cough cough) I don’t know about it at all 129 00:04:31.780 --> 00:04:32.357 Oh yes 130 00:04:32.358 --> 00:04:34.038 (Shy) I… So my type is 131 00:04:34.038 --> 00:04:34.840 (Hold on) 132 00:04:34.841 --> 00:04:36.867 It’s not like we’re going to do some match making 133 00:04:36.867 --> 00:04:38.247 We just want to know 134 00:04:38.247 --> 00:04:42.279 (The question is only out of curiosity) She acts as if we’re going to find someone for her 135 00:04:42.279 --> 00:04:44.020 That’s why I’m here 136 00:04:44.020 --> 00:04:46.020 (Go ahead, Haneul) I’m here for you 137 00:04:46.020 --> 00:04:47.000 I mean, tell us already 138 00:04:47.000 --> 00:04:49.119 TWS DOHOON 139 00:04:49.119 --> 00:04:51.079 (TWS DOHOON, a.k.a baby wolf) DOHOON looks like this 140 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:52.600 So good looking! 141 00:04:52.600 --> 00:04:54.800 I think I'm into that wolf face 142 00:04:54.800 --> 00:04:55.780 When I think about it 143 00:04:55.781 --> 00:04:56.360 (Okay?) 144 00:04:56.360 --> 00:04:58.259 And for the character 145 00:04:58.260 --> 00:05:00.135 Someone who appreciates the little things 146 00:05:00.135 --> 00:05:01.559 And who can be content in the present 147 00:05:01.559 --> 00:05:04.880 I don't think I can relate to someone with a huge ambition 148 00:05:04.880 --> 00:05:06.720 (She poured out her list of her ideal type) When I look at the photo right now 149 00:05:06.720 --> 00:05:08.470 He’s not the pretty-and-handsome one 150 00:05:08.470 --> 00:05:10.200 He’s handsome in manly way 151 00:05:10.200 --> 00:05:10.800 That's right! 152 00:05:10.800 --> 00:05:12.180 The one that is pretty and handsome 153 00:05:12.180 --> 00:05:12.870 His name is SHINYU 154 00:05:12.870 --> 00:05:14.920 (TWS SHINYU a.k.a baby giraffe) The pretty and handsome man 155 00:05:14.920 --> 00:05:15.759 So cute 156 00:05:15.759 --> 00:05:17.399 So Haneul, your type is 157 00:05:17.399 --> 00:05:19.679 (Hanuel's ideal type) A masculine type of man, I assume 158 00:05:19.679 --> 00:05:23.300 (Someone tough yet) Innocence still being in there, you know 159 00:05:23.300 --> 00:05:25.239 Since you are someone who is very free 160 00:05:25.239 --> 00:05:28.739 You wish your significant other to control that 161 00:05:28.739 --> 00:05:29.779 So you are looking for 162 00:05:29.779 --> 00:05:34.119 Someone who can lead you while cherishing you endearly 163 00:05:34.119 --> 00:05:35.799 -So true -Is that right? 164 00:05:35.799 --> 00:05:37.920 (Oh my god) Oh, you really need to 165 00:05:37.920 --> 00:05:39.619 Get paid for this 166 00:05:39.619 --> 00:05:40.160 Is it correct? 167 00:05:40.160 --> 00:05:41.540 (Can't believe) Yes, it is correct 168 00:05:41.540 --> 00:05:46.939 (Figured out Hanuel's nature under just a short conversation) We just met and talked just about a minute and you figured out these all 169 00:05:46.939 --> 00:05:50.080 Since it is based on psychology 170 00:05:50.080 --> 00:05:51.140 We see the difference 171 00:05:51.140 --> 00:05:53.000 (My turn, my turn) So, in my case, ma'am 172 00:05:53.000 --> 00:05:54.920 like over 30 years 173 00:05:54.920 --> 00:05:57.920 I've never had my type over someone's look 174 00:05:57.920 --> 00:05:59.000 but here I am now 175 00:05:59.000 --> 00:06:01.519 (I only cared for character and...) I really looked for the character 176 00:06:01.519 --> 00:06:03.879 (That's the hardest part) Good character is something hard to find 177 00:06:03.879 --> 00:06:06.659 You can tell when you date someone for a while 178 00:06:06.659 --> 00:06:08.260 But, among the three 179 00:06:08.260 --> 00:06:10.420 (Q. Looks, money, character; what is the most important one?) In your view what's the most important? 180 00:06:10.420 --> 00:06:11.720 Though everything is important 181 00:06:11.720 --> 00:06:13.160 Actually 182 00:06:13.160 --> 00:06:15.800 If you just start with the looks or the money 183 00:06:15.800 --> 00:06:17.040 Then it is a simpler story 184 00:06:17.041 --> 00:06:18.441 (Ah ha..) In fact, the money is 185 00:06:18.441 --> 00:06:21.720 (First, money) a financial ability for the living of both 186 00:06:21.720 --> 00:06:23.839 When it is enough for the essential living of both 187 00:06:23.840 --> 00:06:25.420 I consider it fine 188 00:06:25.420 --> 00:06:26.559 (Second, looks) And for the looks 189 00:06:26.559 --> 00:06:28.818 it is not that important part actually 190 00:06:28.818 --> 00:06:31.280 (Personal preference for the looks) Everyone has a different preference 191 00:06:31.280 --> 00:06:34.320 But according to psychological studies, most of people 192 00:06:34.320 --> 00:06:36.720 tend to be attracted by 193 00:06:36.720 --> 00:06:39.360 someone who have the similar appearance 194 00:06:39.361 --> 00:06:40.761 To themselves 195 00:06:40.761 --> 00:06:41.801 (Hold on a second) 196 00:06:41.801 --> 00:06:45.081 I have never been attracted to 197 00:06:45.081 --> 00:06:46.200 someone who is slender like myself 198 00:06:46.200 --> 00:06:48.879 (So Hyun's type is SHINDONG from SUPER JUNIOR) I always liked SHINDONG from SUPER JUNIOR 199 00:06:48.879 --> 00:06:50.339 Ah, is that so? 200 00:06:50.339 --> 00:06:51.639 (Sad..) So I mean this is 201 00:06:51.639 --> 00:06:52.959 I think something's been out of step 202 00:06:52.959 --> 00:06:54.320 Appearance is 203 00:06:54.320 --> 00:06:57.519 It's not that I like someone slender because I am too 204 00:06:57.519 --> 00:07:00.959 (Lookalike, overall features & Atmosphere) It's the mood of the eyes, nose, mouth, and so on 205 00:07:00.959 --> 00:07:02.480 Right, round 206 00:07:02.481 --> 00:07:04.981 (Oh~!) I've never liked 207 00:07:04.981 --> 00:07:06.720 Someone sharp or chic 208 00:07:06.720 --> 00:07:08.800 (Like me) It's always been someone cute 209 00:07:08.800 --> 00:07:11.160 (Heart beating) Do I look like DOHOON then? 210 00:07:11.160 --> 00:07:12.399 You don't! 211 00:07:12.399 --> 00:07:14.399 (Haneul, never mind) You don't! 212 00:07:14.399 --> 00:07:17.900 (Salon de Pod) You really don't! 213 00:07:17.900 --> 00:07:21.600 The reason why it's so hard to look for character is 214 00:07:21.600 --> 00:07:24.559 Because everyone defines character differently 215 00:07:24.559 --> 00:07:26.139 So what do you think is character? 216 00:07:26.139 --> 00:07:27.920 I guess he's not lying 217 00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:30.880 (Right!) He's always telling the truth 218 00:07:30.880 --> 00:07:32.880 (So Hyun's definition of honesty: straightforward) A person who can speak straightforward 219 00:07:32.880 --> 00:07:35.000 Straightforward? 220 00:07:35.000 --> 00:07:37.279 So we're saying that they're honest 221 00:07:37.279 --> 00:07:40.239 If we focus on that honesty 222 00:07:40.239 --> 00:07:43.359 People who are very honest don't lie 223 00:07:43.359 --> 00:07:45.880 But that doesn't mean they're being straightforward either 224 00:07:45.880 --> 00:07:47.740 -It doesn't? -It's a different story 225 00:07:47.740 --> 00:07:48.559 -Oh, I see -Yes 226 00:07:48.559 --> 00:07:50.720 It's a wide range of things then 227 00:07:50.720 --> 00:07:52.470 We say character easily, but 228 00:07:52.470 --> 00:07:54.239 Actually it's something very superficial 229 00:07:54.239 --> 00:07:58.000 So if we can't take examples into actions 230 00:07:58.000 --> 00:07:59.200 Every time we see someone 231 00:07:59.200 --> 00:08:01.679 (Criteria shaken by each and every action) After seeing this behavior, I think I like this kind of person 232 00:08:01.679 --> 00:08:03.679 But then when I see a different behavior 233 00:08:03.679 --> 00:08:05.040 I don't think so 234 00:08:05.040 --> 00:08:07.040 The criteria keeps shaking like so 235 00:08:07.040 --> 00:08:07.979 (That's right...) So 236 00:08:07.980 --> 00:08:10.280 If I really want to meet a good person 237 00:08:10.280 --> 00:08:11.660 (Knowing my standards clearly) I have to know myself well 238 00:08:11.660 --> 00:08:13.319 They say that a lot 239 00:08:13.319 --> 00:08:15.760 I actually don't know what kind of person I am... 240 00:08:15.760 --> 00:08:17.839 (It's hard to know alone) Someone should tell me 241 00:08:17.839 --> 00:08:20.320 I think it's hard to figure it out 242 00:08:20.320 --> 00:08:21.639 Actually, people who are good at dating 243 00:08:21.639 --> 00:08:24.239 They're very good at self objectification and self awareness 244 00:08:24.239 --> 00:08:26.079 (Aha!) What I'm thinking 245 00:08:26.079 --> 00:08:27.920 What kind of heart I have 246 00:08:27.920 --> 00:08:29.920 And what I'm doing 247 00:08:29.920 --> 00:08:32.239 They're very accurately aware of it 248 00:08:32.239 --> 00:08:33.319 And there's another one 249 00:08:33.319 --> 00:08:36.320 It's very important to know objectively 250 00:08:36.320 --> 00:08:38.159 Where I am in society, right? 251 00:08:38.159 --> 00:08:39.069 For example 252 00:08:39.069 --> 00:08:40.719 I'm 46 years old 253 00:08:40.719 --> 00:08:43.359 (Oh my) I'll tell you my international age to be one year younger 254 00:08:43.359 --> 00:08:45.840 You don't even look 36 now! 255 00:08:45.840 --> 00:08:47.399 Let's say she's 36 256 00:08:47.399 --> 00:08:49.440 (Cha Hee Yeon, psychologist, in her early 30s) Please write the early 30s in the subtitles 257 00:08:49.440 --> 00:08:51.039 You really look so young 258 00:08:51.039 --> 00:08:52.559 I may believe that 259 00:08:52.559 --> 00:08:55.760 I am able to give birth, socially speaking 260 00:08:55.760 --> 00:08:57.760 But others may disagree 261 00:08:57.760 --> 00:09:00.320 Then, I need to know what the other person 262 00:09:00.320 --> 00:09:01.679 thinks of me 263 00:09:01.679 --> 00:09:05.440 When I meet that person, I need to know what kind of expectations they have of me 264 00:09:05.440 --> 00:09:06.559 I also need to know the directions 265 00:09:06.559 --> 00:09:09.280 to the relationship between us 266 00:09:09.280 --> 00:09:10.960 And who may choose me in the future 267 00:09:10.960 --> 00:09:12.559 Those with this knowledge 268 00:09:12.559 --> 00:09:16.259 (Need to know the realistic picture of my type) They aren't shooting for the stars 269 00:09:16.259 --> 00:09:18.080 This is a bit difficult 270 00:09:18.080 --> 00:09:21.239 We'd just go for someone who likes me 271 00:09:21.239 --> 00:09:24.080 (It's hard to love with that knowledge) You have to calculate it well and think about it regularly 272 00:09:24.080 --> 00:09:25.280 That's also true 273 00:09:25.280 --> 00:09:27.599 (More important at the beginning of a relationship!) You have to know the person you like clearly 274 00:09:27.599 --> 00:09:29.040 and when that person appears right in front of you 275 00:09:29.040 --> 00:09:30.480 instead of waiting for that person 276 00:09:30.480 --> 00:09:31.280 To ask you out 277 00:09:31.280 --> 00:09:34.479 A woman's skill is to make that person ask you out first 278 00:09:34.479 --> 00:09:35.660 It's difficult, difficult 279 00:09:35.660 --> 00:09:37.200 It's hard to meet your ideal type 280 00:09:37.200 --> 00:09:39.599 (Even if you meet your ideal type, you need the skills) and even if you do, you can't talk because you don't have the skills 281 00:09:39.599 --> 00:09:42.080 I'll tell you 282 00:09:42.080 --> 00:09:44.159 (How to be good at dating, absolutely don't skip) We'll continue talking later today 283 00:09:44.159 --> 00:09:47.919 (Salon de Pod) Ask now, right now 284 00:09:47.919 --> 00:09:49.280 I'm curious about this 285 00:09:49.280 --> 00:09:53.599 I wonder if we're attracted because we're different, or if someone similar is better 286 00:09:53.599 --> 00:09:54.740 What do you think? 287 00:09:54.740 --> 00:09:56.479 This also has many variables 288 00:09:56.479 --> 00:09:58.239 If you look closely at falling in love 289 00:09:58.239 --> 00:10:00.799 and the process of starting a relationship 290 00:10:00.799 --> 00:10:02.320 (In case of pharmacist Haneul) With similar interests 291 00:10:02.320 --> 00:10:03.679 and goals 292 00:10:03.679 --> 00:10:07.679 You want to get to know someone more with that smooth conversation, right? 293 00:10:07.679 --> 00:10:12.700 That's the perspective that says we have to be similar 294 00:10:12.700 --> 00:10:14.320 That person and I are exactly the same 295 00:10:14.320 --> 00:10:16.000 I know too well what that person is thinking 296 00:10:16.000 --> 00:10:16.979 Then, are you curious about him or not? 297 00:10:16.979 --> 00:10:18.460 (Obvious and boring) Right? No 298 00:10:18.460 --> 00:10:20.640 Some celebrities marry celebrities 299 00:10:20.640 --> 00:10:23.940 But many celebrities look for non-celebrities too 300 00:10:23.940 --> 00:10:25.679 That's the case! 301 00:10:25.679 --> 00:10:27.919 There's an uncharted field 302 00:10:27.919 --> 00:10:28.979 What is that person thinking about? 303 00:10:28.979 --> 00:10:30.960 (Completely different from me...) I consider it and have deep thoughts about it 304 00:10:30.960 --> 00:10:32.799 Become curious about it and then fall in love 305 00:10:32.799 --> 00:10:35.280 So that depends on that person 306 00:10:35.280 --> 00:10:37.839 In the end, it's all up to them 307 00:10:37.839 --> 00:10:39.840 There's an interesting result from a psychology experiment 308 00:10:39.840 --> 00:10:41.359 When they asked "What is your ideal type?" 309 00:10:41.359 --> 00:10:42.859 "this, this and this is my ideal type" 310 00:10:42.859 --> 00:10:44.400 It's how the subjects answered the question 311 00:10:44.400 --> 00:10:46.960 (Interested) After time passed by, subjects started dating 312 00:10:46.960 --> 00:10:49.200 When they checked if the subjects were dating their ideal type 313 00:10:49.200 --> 00:10:50.799 It wasn't their ideal type 314 00:10:50.799 --> 00:10:52.699 And while the subjects were dating 315 00:10:52.699 --> 00:10:54.559 They asked the subject's ideal type once again 316 00:10:54.559 --> 00:10:59.599 The ideal type was adjusted similarly to the person they're currently dating 317 00:10:59.599 --> 00:11:00.799 Wow fascinating 318 00:11:00.799 --> 00:11:03.280 There aren't many people who date their exact ideal type 319 00:11:03.280 --> 00:11:06.320 (Love from movies) We don't see those people often 320 00:11:06.320 --> 00:11:07.440 It's not a common type of love 321 00:11:07.440 --> 00:11:08.640 What I always mention is 322 00:11:08.640 --> 00:11:11.039 Please go out with lots of people 323 00:11:11.039 --> 00:11:13.760 I may have liked this person because of his masculinity 324 00:11:13.760 --> 00:11:16.659 But I might end up liking another factor 325 00:11:16.659 --> 00:11:18.559 There are so many variables 326 00:11:18.559 --> 00:11:20.159 Between a man and a woman 327 00:11:20.159 --> 00:11:22.719 No one can predict falling in love 328 00:11:22.719 --> 00:11:24.320 I know, of course 329 00:11:24.320 --> 00:11:25.120 That's why 330 00:11:25.120 --> 00:11:27.679 I suggest meeting a lot of people 331 00:11:27.679 --> 00:11:29.039 Oh really? Then 332 00:11:29.039 --> 00:11:30.400 (Where should I meet people?) Where do people find their partners? 333 00:11:30.400 --> 00:11:31.339 Where do people find their partners commonly? 334 00:11:31.339 --> 00:11:34.000 (These two don't know much about dating) Blind dates? We don't know anything 335 00:11:34.000 --> 00:11:35.500 When people are young 336 00:11:35.500 --> 00:11:37.039 They tend to meet their partners through blind dates 337 00:11:37.039 --> 00:11:39.420 But don't we still do blind dates? 338 00:11:39.420 --> 00:11:42.700 (Hard facts) But do you still get blind dates at that age? 339 00:11:42.700 --> 00:11:43.599 Then let's do it this way 340 00:11:43.599 --> 00:11:45.599 (Setting) You met someone at a friend's birthday party 341 00:11:45.599 --> 00:11:46.099 (I love it) Isn't it nice? 342 00:11:46.099 --> 00:11:47.639 It's something that happens often 343 00:11:47.639 --> 00:11:48.329 Everything's nice but 344 00:11:48.329 --> 00:11:49.560 As you get older 345 00:11:49.560 --> 00:11:50.899 (Most of them are married) There are so many married people 346 00:11:50.900 --> 00:11:52.159 My friends are all married 347 00:11:52.159 --> 00:11:54.640 There's a high chance that it could go sideways 348 00:11:54.640 --> 00:11:56.000 You can't meet anyone 349 00:11:56.000 --> 00:11:57.500 And when I was young 350 00:11:57.500 --> 00:11:59.039 When I went on blind dates 351 00:11:59.039 --> 00:12:01.600 People just looked at their appearance and said they're my type 352 00:12:01.600 --> 00:12:02.640 That was how it worked 353 00:12:02.640 --> 00:12:03.980 But nowadays 354 00:12:03.980 --> 00:12:07.039 You go on a pseudo blind date with all the information 355 00:12:07.039 --> 00:12:09.119 about where you live, what you do for job 356 00:12:09.119 --> 00:12:10.400 (Feels like an arranged setup) It's like an arranged setup 357 00:12:10.400 --> 00:12:11.679 Because of this 358 00:12:11.679 --> 00:12:14.080 That person may be judging me as well 359 00:12:14.080 --> 00:12:15.440 And I really do not like this 360 00:12:15.440 --> 00:12:16.479 To be honest 361 00:12:16.479 --> 00:12:18.559 that's the right thing to do if you're in your 30s right now 362 00:12:18.559 --> 00:12:19.209 Because 363 00:12:19.209 --> 00:12:21.520 You don't go on dates to get married when in 20s 364 00:12:21.520 --> 00:12:23.280 So it's completely fine to date them for looks 365 00:12:23.280 --> 00:12:24.320 You're going to break up anyways 366 00:12:24.320 --> 00:12:25.599 (Gosh) Ah... 367 00:12:25.599 --> 00:12:26.159 Isn't that right 368 00:12:26.159 --> 00:12:27.840 And it's nice if it turns out well 369 00:12:27.840 --> 00:12:29.440 If it does turn out well 370 00:12:29.440 --> 00:12:32.239 (Good looks but not what I expected..?) but they aren't like what you expcted, what will you do then? 371 00:12:34.159 --> 00:12:36.080 I got married when I was 25 372 00:12:36.080 --> 00:12:37.520 but got divorced at 35 373 00:12:37.520 --> 00:12:39.280 That's a bit early to get married at 25 374 00:12:39.280 --> 00:12:40.719 I thought he's okay and got married 375 00:12:40.719 --> 00:12:41.520 but the more I spent time him 376 00:12:41.520 --> 00:12:43.280 (Perspective difference when dating and after marriage about partner) he turned out to be different from what I expected 377 00:12:43.280 --> 00:12:44.640 I knew nothing back then 378 00:12:44.640 --> 00:12:45.919 (Oh...) That was very important 379 00:12:45.919 --> 00:12:48.400 Having some kind of similarities between households 380 00:12:48.400 --> 00:12:50.400 is about the household culture, the environment you grew up in 381 00:12:50.400 --> 00:12:51.280 the way you think 382 00:12:51.280 --> 00:12:52.799 All these are shared with this similarity 383 00:12:52.799 --> 00:12:53.640 But if these are different 384 00:12:53.640 --> 00:12:56.000 (Unable to talk during marriage) it'd be difficult to have a solid conversation 385 00:12:56.000 --> 00:12:56.770 You're right 386 00:12:56.770 --> 00:12:58.940 (I got it!) I think you need some basic similarities 387 00:12:58.940 --> 00:13:01.039 to have a decent conversation 388 00:13:01.039 --> 00:13:02.559 It doesn't matter when you're young 389 00:13:02.559 --> 00:13:04.559 but when you're thinking of settling in 390 00:13:04.559 --> 00:13:06.080 you have to be mindful about these 391 00:13:06.080 --> 00:13:08.080 But I think this was the thing for me 392 00:13:08.080 --> 00:13:10.299 I get that they care about your looks 393 00:13:10.299 --> 00:13:14.000 but when I can tell when they're being calculative 394 00:13:14.000 --> 00:13:15.520 (Sigh~) When you can feel they're thinking 395 00:13:15.520 --> 00:13:17.359 'She might do' 396 00:13:17.359 --> 00:13:19.039 (Got it) Something like that 397 00:13:19.039 --> 00:13:20.239 (Wants to date someone for love rather than they're capabilities) I just want to start love 398 00:13:20.239 --> 00:13:22.960 with just a thing I'm interested about them 399 00:13:22.960 --> 00:13:25.200 -Going on blind dates is very hard -Right 400 00:13:25.200 --> 00:13:26.799 So whatever it is 401 00:13:26.799 --> 00:13:29.440 Some people are like that, and others are like this 402 00:13:29.440 --> 00:13:30.400 (Ah..!) 'That's because I'm older now' 403 00:13:30.400 --> 00:13:31.440 'That's because I'm on a blind date' 404 00:13:31.440 --> 00:13:32.880 'They're trying to be clever, huh?' 405 00:13:32.880 --> 00:13:33.919 This way you can't date anyone 406 00:13:33.919 --> 00:13:35.640 It depends on the person 407 00:13:35.640 --> 00:13:36.780 My entire mindset... 408 00:13:36.781 --> 00:13:39.266 (Breaking negative mindset) They are all shattered now 409 00:13:39.266 --> 00:13:41.520 If we look at the research 410 00:13:41.520 --> 00:13:43.359 With someone met at a matchmaking company 411 00:13:43.359 --> 00:13:45.039 And with the person met on a regular blind date 412 00:13:45.039 --> 00:13:46.960 Divorce rates and living things 413 00:13:46.960 --> 00:13:48.159 Actually, there's not much difference 414 00:13:48.159 --> 00:13:49.680 Oh really? Is it the same? 415 00:13:49.680 --> 00:13:51.919 A blind date is ultimately just being introduced to someone 416 00:13:51.919 --> 00:13:54.080 A matchmaking company is ultimately just about getting introduced to someone, too 417 00:13:54.080 --> 00:13:55.760 But the difference between the two is 418 00:13:55.760 --> 00:13:58.960 -On a blind date, you don't really ask about the other person's conditions, right? -Yeah, I don't ask 419 00:13:58.960 --> 00:14:00.640 But a matchmaking company is 420 00:14:00.640 --> 00:14:01.919 (From an outsider's perspective, verifying objective information) How about educational background 421 00:14:01.919 --> 00:14:03.039 And how about property 422 00:14:03.039 --> 00:14:03.679 How about family 423 00:14:03.679 --> 00:14:05.440 They check all of these 424 00:14:05.440 --> 00:14:06.960 So that means unless everything is correct 425 00:14:06.960 --> 00:14:09.599 And has been verified, the relationship would not start 426 00:14:09.599 --> 00:14:12.799 So, in reality, I've given a lot of lectures at companies 427 00:14:12.799 --> 00:14:15.280 I've asked a lot of women 428 00:14:15.280 --> 00:14:18.400 (95% of women think ‘it’s a scam marriage’) 95% thought they were being scammed into marriage 429 00:14:18.400 --> 00:14:21.159 Isn't it surprising that it's 95%? 430 00:14:21.159 --> 00:14:22.719 One of my clients said that to me as well 431 00:14:22.719 --> 00:14:24.719 That was an old couple 432 00:14:24.719 --> 00:14:27.280 (I ended up in a scam marriage, you know~) They said they were scammed into marriage 433 00:14:27.280 --> 00:14:28.420 In the old days 434 00:14:28.420 --> 00:14:30.080 That means, if the marriage is not a scam 435 00:14:30.080 --> 00:14:32.159 No one can get married 436 00:14:32.159 --> 00:14:33.440 That was how severe the lies were 437 00:14:33.440 --> 00:14:35.440 (That doesn’t work in today’s times!) I think this is really bad 438 00:14:35.440 --> 00:14:36.880 What So Hyun mentioned earlier 439 00:14:36.880 --> 00:14:40.320 It’s the end of the line in terms of honesty 440 00:14:40.320 --> 00:14:42.640 A little exaggeration is just a minor detail 441 00:14:42.640 --> 00:14:45.119 (There are cases where people deliberately lie) In reality, there are a lot of cases where people lie 442 00:14:45.119 --> 00:14:46.889 And there are cases 443 00:14:46.889 --> 00:14:48.559 That people won't mention their weaknesses at all 444 00:14:48.559 --> 00:14:50.160 (Silence can also be a lie…) 445 00:14:50.160 --> 00:14:53.880 (Salon de Pod) While running a matchmaking company, you must have met many people 446 00:14:53.880 --> 00:14:55.599 (Q. Do you have any memorable episodes at work?) Are there any people who stand out in your memory? 447 00:14:55.599 --> 00:14:56.899 Actually 448 00:14:56.899 --> 00:14:58.239 (In the registration process) After verifying the basic specifications 449 00:14:58.239 --> 00:15:01.359 There is a reason for conducting personality and psychological assessments 450 00:15:01.359 --> 00:15:02.640 (This story will be good!) So there was 451 00:15:02.640 --> 00:15:04.559 A person who requested 452 00:15:04.559 --> 00:15:06.159 to be registered 453 00:15:06.159 --> 00:15:08.799 So I decided to make a consultation 454 00:15:08.799 --> 00:15:10.659 (Concentrating) By chance, on our channel 455 00:15:10.659 --> 00:15:13.359 (A very long comment on YouTube video) There was a long comment 456 00:15:13.359 --> 00:15:14.309 And that comment 457 00:15:14.309 --> 00:15:15.280 It was schizophrenia 458 00:15:15.280 --> 00:15:18.199 -You could tell just with that..!? -Yes 459 00:15:18.199 --> 00:15:19.680 So to that comment I replied 460 00:15:19.680 --> 00:15:21.599 'It must be schizophrenia, please see a doctor' 461 00:15:21.599 --> 00:15:23.919 I left that comment below 462 00:15:23.919 --> 00:15:26.559 And I just forgot about it afterwards 463 00:15:26.559 --> 00:15:27.209 But 464 00:15:27.209 --> 00:15:28.799 The person who applied for the consultation 465 00:15:28.799 --> 00:15:30.569 He called our company 466 00:15:30.569 --> 00:15:31.520 And he complained 467 00:15:31.520 --> 00:15:36.280 'I'm just here to get registered, don't tell me to go to a hospital!' 468 00:15:36.280 --> 00:15:36.960 And I figured 469 00:15:36.960 --> 00:15:39.760 The person who wrote this comment was him 470 00:15:39.760 --> 00:15:41.280 But with objective measures 471 00:15:41.280 --> 00:15:45.840 He's the CEO of a small and medium-sized company whose sales were great, his looks were good, and everything was good 472 00:15:45.840 --> 00:15:47.520 But when he thinks about himself 473 00:15:47.520 --> 00:15:48.960 He's only mildly depressed 474 00:15:48.960 --> 00:15:50.080 That's what he thought 475 00:15:50.080 --> 00:15:51.280 But that wasn't it, right? 476 00:15:51.280 --> 00:15:54.719 For schizophrenia 477 00:15:54.719 --> 00:15:58.780 -There are cases where the initial symptoms are depression -Right 478 00:15:58.780 --> 00:16:00.000 To our membership manager I said 479 00:16:00.000 --> 00:16:02.559 'This person needs to go to the hospital, don't take him' 480 00:16:02.559 --> 00:16:03.920 That's what I said to the manager 481 00:16:03.920 --> 00:16:05.860 (Curious) But at what point did you know it was schizophrenia? 482 00:16:05.860 --> 00:16:07.280 How did you know just by looking at the comment? 483 00:16:07.280 --> 00:16:09.180 So symptoms for schizophrenia includes 484 00:16:09.180 --> 00:16:11.119 Inconsistent writing 485 00:16:11.119 --> 00:16:14.000 'I was going to wash up at home and go out' 486 00:16:14.000 --> 00:16:17.039 And it switches to 'My friend did this and that' 487 00:16:17.039 --> 00:16:18.719 And then suddenly 'I am depressed' 488 00:16:18.719 --> 00:16:20.479 It's all over the place 489 00:16:20.479 --> 00:16:23.280 -And they themselves don't realize -Even when writing themselves 490 00:16:23.280 --> 00:16:24.219 Usually, when we write 491 00:16:24.219 --> 00:16:27.260 We tend to plan it out more than for our speech 492 00:16:27.260 --> 00:16:28.239 Still it would be scattered 493 00:16:28.239 --> 00:16:28.960 It's because 494 00:16:28.960 --> 00:16:31.479 If you keep seeing or hearing something next to you 495 00:16:31.479 --> 00:16:32.780 You can't concentrate 496 00:16:32.780 --> 00:16:35.919 (She could see the symptoms as a psychologist) So the content would be all over the place 497 00:16:35.919 --> 00:16:38.719 (Salon de Pod) Then, as you run your matchmaking company 498 00:16:38.719 --> 00:16:43.280 Is there anything you really care about, in order for a successful match? 499 00:16:43.280 --> 00:16:44.239 So, marriage is... 500 00:16:44.239 --> 00:16:46.799 You're not getting married for the wedding 501 00:16:46.799 --> 00:16:48.640 You get married in order to 502 00:16:48.640 --> 00:16:51.119 Live long together and happily together 503 00:16:51.119 --> 00:16:53.919 If you only go for the conditions, then with 504 00:16:53.919 --> 00:16:55.679 Different values and preferences 505 00:16:55.679 --> 00:16:58.080 Then it can eventually lead to divorce 506 00:16:58.080 --> 00:17:00.799 That's why I do things like personality assessments 507 00:17:00.799 --> 00:17:02.639 or psychological assessments 508 00:17:02.639 --> 00:17:05.839 To match people with similar preferences 509 00:17:05.839 --> 00:17:07.520 and similar directions that both are headed towards 510 00:17:07.520 --> 00:17:09.199 For example 511 00:17:09.199 --> 00:17:10.249 I want doctor, I want lawyer 512 00:17:10.249 --> 00:17:11.280 Someone may say this 513 00:17:11.280 --> 00:17:12.640 But actually these people 514 00:17:12.640 --> 00:17:14.959 From very young age, they have worked really hard 515 00:17:14.959 --> 00:17:19.359 (It's a career where you have to study your whole life) Even after getting a job, they have to keep studying really hard 516 00:17:19.359 --> 00:17:21.599 They hardly have time for themselves 517 00:17:21.599 --> 00:17:23.559 It's important not to choose someone just because they have a good job 518 00:17:23.559 --> 00:17:24.520 If you need to experience being loved 519 00:17:24.520 --> 00:17:25.659 If spending time together is 520 00:17:25.659 --> 00:17:27.599 one of your core love languages 521 00:17:27.599 --> 00:17:30.479 (Conditions may be good, but a happy marriage isn’t guaranteed) Just because someone has a professional career doesn’t mean that you'll be happy 522 00:17:30.479 --> 00:17:31.760 That's right! 523 00:17:31.760 --> 00:17:33.340 What might seem like a good husband to others 524 00:17:33.340 --> 00:17:35.760 doesn't mean he is the best husband for me 525 00:17:35.760 --> 00:17:38.440 I think this is really important 526 00:17:38.440 --> 00:17:41.680 Maintaining that relationship is much more important 527 00:17:41.680 --> 00:17:44.640 (The concept of having similar values can be challenging to understand) When we say similar, it means that we're from similar family backgrounds 528 00:17:44.640 --> 00:17:46.820 also financial situations are somewhat alike 529 00:17:46.820 --> 00:17:50.259 When we say the family backgrounds are similar, it means 530 00:17:50.259 --> 00:17:51.089 In psychology 531 00:17:51.089 --> 00:17:52.979 we refer to this as social learning 532 00:17:52.979 --> 00:17:56.299 It's often said that we tend to live the way we observed and learned while growing up 533 00:17:56.300 --> 00:17:57.899 (That's what it is~) Ah, I see 534 00:17:57.899 --> 00:18:00.799 (Importance of family environment in social learning) That's why the family environment is so important 535 00:18:00.799 --> 00:18:03.839 It doesn't mean that you have to come from a wealthy family 536 00:18:03.839 --> 00:18:06.239 For instance, someone comes from a family of educators 537 00:18:06.239 --> 00:18:09.520 (Education, finances, manners, and other key values vary from family to family) Their focus is strongly aligned with education and likewise things 538 00:18:09.520 --> 00:18:11.199 Then introduce someone with similar values 539 00:18:11.199 --> 00:18:13.439 or someone from that kinds of family 540 00:18:13.439 --> 00:18:15.559 Then they are likely to be similar 541 00:18:15.559 --> 00:18:16.560 Someone who runs a business 542 00:18:16.560 --> 00:18:19.520 (Exactly!) would likely to meet someone with another family of entrepreneurs 543 00:18:19.520 --> 00:18:22.079 (Perfect match) A family involved in arts then they would likely to match well with another artistic family 544 00:18:22.079 --> 00:18:23.280 They’re bound to understand each other so well 545 00:18:23.280 --> 00:18:25.439 While there are both artists and those who appreciate art 546 00:18:25.439 --> 00:18:27.920 qctually when I set someone with another person based on professions 547 00:18:27.920 --> 00:18:30.579 (Professional compatibility) There are jobs that match well together, and others that don’t 548 00:18:30.579 --> 00:18:32.479 (Totally curious) Please tell us more about it 549 00:18:32.479 --> 00:18:33.859 For example 550 00:18:33.859 --> 00:18:37.119 (The perfect match for a celebrity is~??) It's a celebrity 551 00:18:37.119 --> 00:18:38.169 But celebrities 552 00:18:38.169 --> 00:18:39.739 They get along well with white collar professionals 553 00:18:39.740 --> 00:18:41.259 (White collar professionals!?) 554 00:18:41.259 --> 00:18:43.280 Celebrities are freelancers 555 00:18:43.280 --> 00:18:45.839 They take initiative in setting their own schedules 556 00:18:45.839 --> 00:18:47.439 and have to do things on their own 557 00:18:47.439 --> 00:18:49.520 They have that solopreneur mindset 558 00:18:49.520 --> 00:18:52.319 The white collar professionals are smart and 559 00:18:52.319 --> 00:18:55.599 (Pros with a strong business mindset who've started up) Also businessmen, like those who started a company 560 00:18:55.599 --> 00:18:56.800 So, with these people 561 00:18:56.800 --> 00:18:59.680 Conversations are bound to be similar 562 00:18:59.680 --> 00:19:00.800 But if 563 00:19:00.800 --> 00:19:04.160 (How's the office worker-entrepreneur chemistry?) an office worker and an entrepreneur talk, would they click? 564 00:19:04.160 --> 00:19:06.079 They won't 565 00:19:06.079 --> 00:19:08.239 They are in a hired position 566 00:19:08.239 --> 00:19:11.680 That'd be like talking as employer and employee 567 00:19:11.680 --> 00:19:12.699 Even in romance 568 00:19:12.700 --> 00:19:14.260 (That makes sense..!) 569 00:19:14.260 --> 00:19:15.520 If an employee 570 00:19:15.520 --> 00:19:17.479 meets a business owner 571 00:19:17.479 --> 00:19:20.400 it feels like talking to the underlings 572 00:19:20.400 --> 00:19:21.199 That’s how they may feel 573 00:19:21.199 --> 00:19:24.320 Back in my day, many celebrities 574 00:19:24.320 --> 00:19:26.560 got married to white collar professionals 575 00:19:26.560 --> 00:19:28.560 such as doctors and persecutors 576 00:19:28.560 --> 00:19:30.640 Though their careers are totally different, but actually 577 00:19:30.640 --> 00:19:32.479 (Life attitude shown in their jobs) Their attitudes toward life are similar 578 00:19:32.479 --> 00:19:34.560 (So fun) Super interesting 579 00:19:34.560 --> 00:19:36.739 (Question with personal interest) Then which professions should celebrities avoid? 580 00:19:36.739 --> 00:19:37.599 From my experience... 581 00:19:37.599 --> 00:19:38.559 Celebrities 582 00:19:38.560 --> 00:19:40.540 find it hard to date those in 583 00:19:40.540 --> 00:19:42.079 office job or public service positions 584 00:19:42.079 --> 00:19:44.719 It's the opposite situation 585 00:19:44.719 --> 00:19:47.680 Celebrities are artistic people 586 00:19:47.680 --> 00:19:50.400 and are very emotional 587 00:19:50.400 --> 00:19:52.919 Civil servants are very rational and 588 00:19:52.919 --> 00:19:55.439 need to make use of the existing resource 589 00:19:55.439 --> 00:19:57.779 They also have to live a structured life 590 00:19:57.779 --> 00:19:59.680 They're people within that frame, so 591 00:19:59.680 --> 00:20:01.040 When these two meet 592 00:20:01.040 --> 00:20:05.920 Both need to have a wide range of tolerance to get along 593 00:20:05.920 --> 00:20:08.000 They must be understanding of each other 594 00:20:08.000 --> 00:20:09.199 This is so fun 595 00:20:09.199 --> 00:20:10.719 (What professions go well with Haneul?) Then what about her? 596 00:20:10.719 --> 00:20:11.280 For you... 597 00:20:11.280 --> 00:20:13.839 She's also self-employed, isn't she 598 00:20:13.839 --> 00:20:14.959 (So Hyun & Haneul are similar) Then we're kind of similar types? 599 00:20:14.959 --> 00:20:16.160 Yeah, kind of 600 00:20:16.160 --> 00:20:17.599 So, like a freelancer 601 00:20:17.599 --> 00:20:19.119 A business owner 602 00:20:19.119 --> 00:20:19.920 Or white collar professional 603 00:20:19.920 --> 00:20:21.100 Those will be a nice fit 604 00:20:21.100 --> 00:20:22.719 (I'll remember!) It's so amazing 605 00:20:22.719 --> 00:20:26.820 (Psychologist + Matchmaking agency CEO) So this is something I can tell you from experience 606 00:20:26.820 --> 00:20:29.040 That's why, with the jobs 607 00:20:29.040 --> 00:20:31.520 One's character may change 608 00:20:31.520 --> 00:20:34.079 There are innate personality tendencies 609 00:20:34.079 --> 00:20:38.000 and tendencies that are created later in life due to jobs 610 00:20:38.000 --> 00:20:42.079 And there's my attitude toward life, which is built with that job 611 00:20:42.079 --> 00:20:45.119 (That's exactly my case!!) I wasn't like this when I was doing ballet 612 00:20:45.119 --> 00:20:47.440 But my personality 613 00:20:47.440 --> 00:20:50.800 changed a lot after becoming a celebrity 614 00:20:50.800 --> 00:20:52.319 When I was doing ballet 615 00:20:52.319 --> 00:20:54.319 -I actually said three words a day -What? 616 00:20:54.319 --> 00:20:56.880 I was such a quiet kid 617 00:20:56.880 --> 00:20:58.160 My classmates would say 618 00:20:58.160 --> 00:20:59.680 Seeing me hosting a show here 619 00:20:59.680 --> 00:21:02.239 (What the world is this, Park So Hyun talking!?) "What the world is this?" 620 00:21:02.239 --> 00:21:03.920 I really said three words a day 621 00:21:03.920 --> 00:21:06.000 (Waiting room talk) But I thought you naturally like talking 622 00:21:06.000 --> 00:21:08.419 So, that changed 623 00:21:08.420 --> 00:21:09.120 It's so amazing 624 00:21:09.120 --> 00:21:10.983 I was a really quiet student 625 00:21:10.983 --> 00:21:13.040 I was kind of an invisible kid 626 00:21:13.040 --> 00:21:14.079 At that time 627 00:21:14.079 --> 00:21:16.400 I was thinner than now 628 00:21:16.400 --> 00:21:18.079 So I didn't have the energy to talk 629 00:21:18.079 --> 00:21:19.760 (Tragicomic lol) It was hard just to do ballet 630 00:21:19.760 --> 00:21:22.479 (Seriously) I was tired enough to do ballet 631 00:21:22.479 --> 00:21:24.440 I really didn't talk 632 00:21:24.440 --> 00:21:26.560 But after I became a celebrity, I became like this 633 00:21:26.560 --> 00:21:29.419 (Salon de Pod) Did she come to school? Was Park So Hyun here? 634 00:21:29.419 --> 00:21:31.040 I was like that kind of kid 635 00:21:31.040 --> 00:21:32.560 The real last question 636 00:21:32.560 --> 00:21:35.520 (Haneul's last curiosity, having shown unprecedented concentration) I'll take questions because there's something she really wants to ask 637 00:21:35.520 --> 00:21:36.470 I really 638 00:21:36.470 --> 00:21:37.439 with my friends 639 00:21:37.439 --> 00:21:39.920 (Regular topic for relationship discussions) I discuss this with them so much 640 00:21:39.920 --> 00:21:43.040 (Why we remember ex-lover we fought a lot?) When you remember your ex who you fought a lot 641 00:21:43.040 --> 00:21:48.719 Do you fight a lot because you like each other, or did the fighting make you two close? 642 00:21:48.719 --> 00:21:52.719 There's a saying that the chance of meeting your ex-lover again 643 00:21:52.719 --> 00:21:54.420 and getting along well is 3% 644 00:21:54.420 --> 00:21:56.719 Don't start over with your ex-lover again, they say 645 00:21:56.719 --> 00:21:57.760 But others 646 00:21:57.760 --> 00:21:59.839 When I read stories on my radio show 647 00:21:59.839 --> 00:22:03.119 People often say they met again and got married again 648 00:22:03.119 --> 00:22:05.439 In fact, the reason 649 00:22:05.439 --> 00:22:07.599 you broke up is very important 650 00:22:07.599 --> 00:22:12.400 Have you heard that the best match is said to be 70%? 651 00:22:12.400 --> 00:22:14.640 The remaining 30% is supposed to be different 652 00:22:14.640 --> 00:22:16.160 This applies to all 653 00:22:16.160 --> 00:22:19.199 Everyone has an area they absolutely cannot compromise 654 00:22:19.199 --> 00:22:22.719 on among the remaining 30% 655 00:22:22.719 --> 00:22:24.200 (Focus) Among the very basic areas of 656 00:22:24.200 --> 00:22:26.560 the deep inner self 657 00:22:26.560 --> 00:22:29.199 this person has an area 658 00:22:29.199 --> 00:22:30.239 (An absolute area that everyone has) that absolutely cannot change 659 00:22:30.239 --> 00:22:31.599 So I have that area 660 00:22:31.599 --> 00:22:33.280 and the other person has that area, too 661 00:22:33.280 --> 00:22:35.799 So, if I can acknowledge 662 00:22:35.799 --> 00:22:37.280 respect, and accept the other person's area 663 00:22:37.280 --> 00:22:38.800 the relationship can be maintained 664 00:22:38.800 --> 00:22:42.560 But what if there was no room for negotiation because of that area? 665 00:22:42.560 --> 00:22:44.719 Then, if they meet again, they break up again 666 00:22:44.719 --> 00:22:47.920 So I have to change? 667 00:22:47.920 --> 00:22:50.800 In the end, it's a question of whether I can accept that area or not 668 00:22:50.800 --> 00:22:52.239 (Aha..) Same for that other person too 669 00:22:52.239 --> 00:22:54.800 30% is a pretty big area 670 00:22:54.800 --> 00:22:59.839 But if it's only 30%, it means that there are a lot of areas that align 671 00:22:59.839 --> 00:23:01.700 (A difficult golden match) It's not easy to meet someone like this 672 00:23:01.700 --> 00:23:04.980 (The more I listen, the more my head hurts..) The more I listen, the more complicated it is 673 00:23:04.980 --> 00:23:06.719 The theory is this complicated 674 00:23:06.719 --> 00:23:09.419 In reality, there will be more number of cases! 675 00:23:09.419 --> 00:23:10.400 But.. 676 00:23:10.400 --> 00:23:12.680 I hope you don't worry about that 677 00:23:12.680 --> 00:23:13.840 If you meet a lot of people 678 00:23:13.840 --> 00:23:15.920 You'll eventually find your match 679 00:23:15.920 --> 00:23:17.199 You'll hook onto one? 680 00:23:17.199 --> 00:23:19.199 They said we are connected 681 00:23:19.199 --> 00:23:20.959 (Love of destiny connected by a red thread) with a red thread 682 00:23:20.959 --> 00:23:23.199 (So Hyun's thread is tangled :( ) No, where are you? It's tangled for me right now 683 00:23:23.199 --> 00:23:24.560 Because you're always at home 684 00:23:24.560 --> 00:23:25.599 (Homebody) I'm always at home 685 00:23:25.599 --> 00:23:28.399 I'm always at home, but I want to meet naturally 686 00:23:28.399 --> 00:23:30.319 -Oh no -I've always wanted to meet naturally 687 00:23:30.319 --> 00:23:33.520 (Salon de Pod) Thank you so much for your kind words today 688 00:23:33.520 --> 00:23:38.479 (Subscriber event ongoing every week) We are continuing to hold events for our subscribers as well 689 00:23:38.479 --> 00:23:41.920 As there is a $30 reward from iHerb ready 690 00:23:41.920 --> 00:23:44.400 Please check the Description for that 691 00:23:44.400 --> 00:23:46.160 Please make sure to check out the subscriber event 692 00:23:46.160 --> 00:23:48.479 We also give gifts 693 00:23:48.479 --> 00:23:50.400 (Gift time) to guests who join us 694 00:23:50.400 --> 00:23:54.560 (Lucky random draw) You have to choose well from the random draw 695 00:23:54.560 --> 00:23:56.319 -It is ongoing -Is there a refrigerator here? 696 00:23:56.319 --> 00:23:59.340 There is no refrigerator 697 00:23:59.340 --> 00:24:04.400 Here are healthy, functional foods from iHerb that are good for your health 698 00:24:04.400 --> 00:24:05.599 Do you take a lot of nutritional supplements? 699 00:24:05.599 --> 00:24:07.480 Yes, I take them well!! 700 00:24:07.480 --> 00:24:09.839 That's why your energy is really good 701 00:24:09.839 --> 00:24:13.680 (Let's see what gift comes out..!) Putting together all the healthy 702 00:24:13.680 --> 00:24:16.400 (Two hands full of energy) Energy given by iHerb 703 00:24:16.400 --> 00:24:17.920 (Bloop) 704 00:24:17.921 --> 00:24:18.921 (She picked it) This 705 00:24:18.922 --> 00:24:21.920 (Curious) Open it for us 706 00:24:21.920 --> 00:24:23.920 I hope it's something you don't take yet... 707 00:24:23.920 --> 00:24:26.400 Lutein 708 00:24:26.400 --> 00:24:27.199 Do you need it? 709 00:24:27.199 --> 00:24:27.949 Of course! 710 00:24:27.949 --> 00:24:30.000 -I'm wearing contact lenses -Lutein 711 00:24:30.000 --> 00:24:31.080 As you get older 712 00:24:31.080 --> 00:24:33.199 The macula changes 713 00:24:33.199 --> 00:24:34.880 And causes aging 714 00:24:34.880 --> 00:24:36.170 So as we get older 715 00:24:36.170 --> 00:24:38.180 The reason why our sight worsens is because 716 00:24:38.180 --> 00:24:40.330 The color in our eyes 717 00:24:40.330 --> 00:24:42.479 Starts to change as they age 718 00:24:42.479 --> 00:24:44.479 And what hinders that is Lutein 719 00:24:44.479 --> 00:24:47.439 (Lutein & Zeaxanthin; A type of Carotenoid protecting the sight by maintaining the density of the macula) And they say that Zeaxanthin is included here 720 00:24:47.439 --> 00:24:50.079 Normally Zeaxanthin and Lutein go together 721 00:24:50.079 --> 00:24:51.529 And they're good antioxidants 722 00:24:51.529 --> 00:24:52.959 And good for the eye 723 00:24:52.959 --> 00:24:54.800 I hope you take it consistently 724 00:24:54.800 --> 00:24:58.640 (Lutein added to the list of nutrients) Since you care for your nutreints you should add Lutein too 725 00:24:58.640 --> 00:25:00.640 Yes, will do! 726 00:25:00.640 --> 00:25:03.599 So how was it with us today? 727 00:25:03.599 --> 00:25:05.040 It was very fun 728 00:25:05.040 --> 00:25:06.640 We had a lot of fun but 729 00:25:06.640 --> 00:25:09.260 What did you like about today? 730 00:25:09.260 --> 00:25:11.119 Listening to you talk was very fun 731 00:25:11.119 --> 00:25:15.179 I was very curious why pretty women like you are not dating 732 00:25:15.180 --> 00:25:17.295 (Unintended roasting hahaha) 733 00:25:17.295 --> 00:25:20.560 (So Hyun & Haneul; We will go to you hand in hand) We can even go visit you 734 00:25:20.560 --> 00:25:22.560 I will show you around 735 00:25:22.560 --> 00:25:23.760 Please do come! 736 00:25:23.760 --> 00:25:25.199 Thank you for a lot of good talk today 737 00:25:25.199 --> 00:25:28.189 It was a time for me to find 738 00:25:28.189 --> 00:25:29.520 A part of me that I didn't know 739 00:25:29.520 --> 00:25:30.479 Did you have fun today, Haneul? 740 00:25:30.479 --> 00:25:32.400 (Genuine joy) It was so fun 741 00:25:32.400 --> 00:25:34.800 I'm really interested in psychology 742 00:25:34.800 --> 00:25:35.910 And when I ask something 743 00:25:35.910 --> 00:25:37.839 She gives an answer right away 744 00:25:37.839 --> 00:25:39.579 (A fun time with brain-hot Cha Hee Yeon) It was so much fun 745 00:25:39.579 --> 00:25:42.800 You were so cool today 746 00:25:42.800 --> 00:25:44.900 So let's say goodbye here 747 00:25:44.900 --> 00:25:45.740 And as for Haneul and I 748 00:25:45.740 --> 00:25:47.939 We'll come back next time at this hour 749 00:25:47.939 --> 00:25:51.020 (Salon de Pod) Thank you! 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