The situation/reason for having a blind date
When you have nothing to say
(Immersive reenactment 1)
The preferred blind date look according to the guys
(not sponsored) Two must-haves on a blind date
So excited
Just don't say this word
Everyone~
(Feeling downhearted) Hello~
Christine, who has been on over 100 blind dates
Increasing the success rate of blind dates by 200%
(Went out without much thought, analyzing what points were good) Reflecting on 100 blind dates
[Thinking about it every night] Each night, one thing comes to mind
(Christine gaining weight) When reaching REM sleep, one by one
[A person who finds blind dates fun] Honestly, blind dates are fun
It's a bit embarrassing to say this myself, but the success rate is
Oh, please, stop, really~
All the socially awkward ones gather around
[All those with blind date phobia gather] I also want to be more natural in blind dates
[Q: I want to talk naturally and comfortably in blind dates] I want to talk comfortably, but it's not going well, for those of you who have this concern
[For Mr. Youngcheol, Mr. Kwangsoo, Ms. Youngja, Ms. Youngsuk...] There are a lot of men like Mr. Youngcheol, Mr. Kwangsoo, etc. to watch
I'll talk about it quickly
[Not the trivial things like nail dirt, nose hair, beard] The obvious things other blind date videos talk about
I won't say the obvious things like clean your nails, manage your hair
(You'll all take care of it neatly) I think all of you will take care of those things yourselves
(A room dweller) Our level is now Heart Signal
[Objective] The goal of this video is two main things
[1. Continue the conversation naturally] Being likable in a blind date but also being myself
[ Real solution when you have nothing to say] How to become a bit more comfortable
(Start of immersion) How to continue the conversation naturally
[2. Top-tier blind date cheat key] Second, how to unleash my charm by 200%
[1. The first 3 seconds, greet with a smile] The first impression is decided within the first 3 seconds. Greet with a smile
(According to the guys) This is something that friends who became friends after meeting on a blind date all said
All of those friends said the same thing
[The first 3 seconds decide if you can see this person as a potential partner] There's actually this 3-second first impression
Right when you first see their face, make eye contact and greet
[The first 3 seconds = the time when physical criteria are decided] Then the guy scans you
Even if their eyeballs aren't rolling
(I was surprised because I'm not the type whose first appearance lasts till the end) The decision is made. The impression of that person, whether that person could be my woman
They have their own standards. It's just decided
[The expression in the first 3 seconds = the first impression] The facial expression in the first 3 seconds is so important because even in Heart Signal
When 'Heart Signal' participants enter one by one, it's the timing
Bright and pretty, smiling as they come in for those 3 seconds
(Even the girls are charmed)
[The reason why the first appearance is shot close-up in love shows] The person's expression is close-up, right
But they come in smiling so brightly
[Practical application] When you just enter the restaurant and that person is there and you say hello
[Even if you're shy, look into their eyes and greet with a smile] Even if you feel embarrassed and nervous
(No need for a demonstration) Don't say hello with a blank expression
(Start of immersion) Say hello brightly, right?
(Cold self-objectification) That was not very nice just now
[The part you'll worry about the most] The second part you'll probably worry about the most is
when you have nothing to say
[Please tell me the question list!] Destiny(Subscriber) asked me to tell her the question list. From there
"Ah! I would be needed!" That's what I thought
[Stop going for the cliché blind date question list!] Thinking about what to talk about when you meet this person
starting with 'What do you do on weekends, what are your hobbies?' and so on
You're going to look at these questions and go, but stop that
["What's the next question?" begins] This is where the nervousness, awkwardness, and artificiality start
[What's a successful blind date?] What do you think a successful blind date is?
[Comfortable back and forth] A good atmosphere and a comfortable back and forth make a successful blind date
[Interview style, absolutely not recommended] But going in with an interview style, memorizing each question one by one
so when the conversation with this person ends
you react appropriately and then I ask the next question
[Not fun!] That's not it, the moment you do this, it really breaks
Just think about a few of the most important things when meeting a potential partner!
[Conflict resolution style, whether they are avoidant, what kind of spending they enjoy the most] You don't need to look these up or list them
just casually ask a few things after the conversation ends
[Not curious about anything] What to talk about with this person when you have nothing to say, you might not be curious about someone you just met
it's possible not to be curious
[Solution 1 - Follow-up questions] You can do this with follow-up questions. What you do is
you have to ask questions that lead to more questions
[Key point] You keep the conversation flowing naturally on one topic
ex) Weekend - Pilates - Have you tried it? - No, but I've heard it's good - Back TMI
ex) Hiking - Which mountain did you like the most? - When did you go recently? - Have you been there?
[Just like Sang-cheol & Ok-soon endlessly talking about 'photos'] You have to catch a keyword with a keyword
Then asking questions becomes a seamless conversation
That's how you get a back-and-forth dialogue
One conversation ends and then the next question
(A couple that keeps talking about 'photos' and 'cafes' / Even with many questions, a couple that doesn't have a back-and-forth) The conversation ends and then the next question,
You can't see it as back-and-forth, that's an interview
So I'm saying this from the I’m SOLO where the participants all never had dated anyone
[Don't ever ask this (1)] There's one question I hope you never ask. That is
Do you have any questions for me, Ok-soon? Anything you wanted to ask? This
[Both realize there are no questions from the other side] It means the other person isn't asking questions, and that means they're not
[Question = Interest = Curiosity] curious about me. At that moment, the other person starts thinking
"What should I ask?" and the mind starts working artificially
[A natural flow of conversation like a festival of words for just the two of you] But if you have a follow-up question conversation that leads on from one topic to another
you don't have to think artificially
It just flows naturally
[What if the back-and-forth doesn't happen?] If the back-and-forth doesn't come, the other person just
makes you run out of things to say no matter how much you throw keywords at them
then what do you do in this situation
There's another method here
[Don't just keep asking and talking on one side] If only one side is talking, it's not really a conversation
It's just talking to yourself so
(You've done enough) Try not talking for a moment
I've asked enough, about 30% to 50%
But the other person keeps not asking questions, it seems like they're not curious about me
then endure that silence. Why should I keep talking?
[Conclusion] It's 200 times better to create a blank space than to keep asking if there are no questions
[Knowing how to throw the ball to the other person prevents you from being a stay-at-home MC] As nervous you are, the other person might be as well
So it's not good to keep asking forcibly if they don’t have any questions
Just asking questions one-sidedly is also a nope; it skews the conversation one way
So I ask questions and do a follow-up, but if the conversation still gets cut off
then endure the silence
I understand this is how you carry on conversations
but what do you talk about in the beginning?
Focus on the main point for those who find themselves blanking, I have a solution for you
[1. Use the matchmaker as a topic] Talk about a mutual friend because we have nothing in common
[Brief introduction deciding when to meet, I usually do this] Personally, I don't like chatting daily on KakaoTalk before meeting up
[It’s neat like this] It's better to just say hello, have a brief talk, then set up a time to meet
And it's better not to contact each other in the meantime
Because really, all we may know about each other is the mutual friend
[*Yuna: our mutual friend] If you're introduced by a friend named Yuna, there's nothing to talk about
Our only common ground is Yuna,
so you could start with, 'I heard from Yuna that you like exercise~'
Go about it naturally like that
It's more natural than just asking out of the blue, 'Do you like exercise?'
[Using information heard from Yuna to ask questions] like 'I heard from Yuna, ...' can lead to a conversation
'How long have you been friends with Yuna?' and similar questions
[Asking questions about them that has Yuna mixed in] Ask questions like this to naturally continue the conversation
The second method is when there's no Yuna
[If there's no mutual friend] For a third-party introduction
You could talk like this
(Fate believer in blind dates) Blind dates are also a kind of fate, so
[2. How I came to have this blind date setup] Why I decided to take this introduction at this timing
Talking about the situation I was in at that time is really natural and honest
Applying it practically, just casually mention
[Explain the situation that gave you the right timing!] A situation like 'I've come back from a working holiday or study abroad right before enrolling in this semester
[*Additional effect: Assign meaning to the timing 1] or, 'I thought now before a job start is when I have the most free time to accept an introduction'
['Oh, you're free right now too? Same here...'] It's natural. Why I decided to accept this introduction when we first met
['Maybe I should go on a blind date?'] In what circumstances I decided to give it a try
['Introduce me to someone like this~'] There was a moment when I told a friend I'd like to meet someone someday,
and they remembered and introduced me
In this manner, it's very very natural,
and there is so much to talk about
And the third, really
[Any other methods?] If all of the above is not suitable, and I really don’t want to talk about any of it, then, we eat, right?
[3. Talk about the food] Talk about the food. If it’s an Italian restaurant
Then ask, 'Do you like Italian restaurants?'
Whether they like Italian, if they've been here before, this tastes good, etc
Don't just say these (2)
Someone might want to say they have a flexible personality as their strength
But I heard this kind of statement for the first time
It was my first time hearing that even with the 100 blind dates I had but it stayed in me because
[Intent understood but the heart had a reaction...] It seems like the phrase didn't really work on me
'I can get along with anyone'
That might really be that person's personality
And it could be that person talking about their amiable personality
So for someone, it might be a strength, but
the first thought that came to my mind was 'So it doesn’t have to be me then' That's what I thought
I guess he'd be fine to meet some other ordinary girl~!
(From a not-so-ordinary person) That thought came to my mind right away
[How to show interest then..?] Sometimes you want to express a bit that 'I like you'
After eating and going to a cafe,
there's this phrase, 'Time flies today,' right?
[A sign of enjoyment without pressure, in a pleasant way] What does it mean when time flies? It means the conversation is fun
[Charm boost 200% UP cheat key] Let's get into the cheat key, focus!
Suzy uses her teeth, Hong Yoon-hwa did this, but
I'll tell you a cheat key that can actually be used in real life
The first one is,
'3 seconds of eye contact'
Everyone, eye contact is really more effective than you think
The point is exactly '3 seconds.'
[*Side effects double after 3 seconds] Eye contact without blinking for 5-6 seconds can be a bit overwhelming
(This is not it)
Absolutely no misunderstanding / Prevent side effects in advance
*Not with a blank expression, and not with moving mouth while making eye contact
Just while having a conversation
(Unnecessary demonstration 1)
[@Destiny(Subscriber) : Is this right, sis?] Do you know what I mean?
But really, this thing~
makes me so excited
No, really, it's not just my opinion
I heard it later. They really felt thrilled
(Just trust me once) I'm naturally good at eye contact,
If I really like someone, I listen to their story and
eye contact naturally happens
It makes people feel excited
[*Point: Eye contact that shows I'm listening to your words] When a chatty and noisy person suddenly becomes quiet,
(Here we go again)
then the other person will also stare at me
Then they become shy and can't open their eyes
Right, Kwang-soo? Yeong-cheol, am I right or not~!
[Top-level cheat key] The second cheat key is actually the one at the top,
because it's so obvious that it can't be called a cheat key
[Empathy = Reaction] Just a little bit of good reaction,
[Good reaction, smiling brightly during the conversation] Smiling brightly, empathizing, and having a good conversation flow. That's just a pass
[According to men, more girls make them feel uncomfortable than you'd think] More than you'd think, there are girls who don't react well and lack empathy
Being blunt, honestly speaking,
(Even if their natural personality is blunt, they can still be polite) There are many girls who think they are princesses
So thirdly, what I've written is 'I am not a princess.'
When people meet, what am I to just sit and listen to the talk,
[From really cool and capable people around me, I often hear there are such counterparts..] Right, right, or
(Taking the other person's time and effort for granted..) Not saying anything or not giving a reaction,
(Though they might have gone with good intentions) Would that make for an enjoyable conversation?
[If you're nervous and trembling!] Being frozen from nervousness and trembling, resulting in no reaction,
is an unfortunate case, so I'm mentioning it,
I asked on my Instagram story which blind date was the best, and that's what I pondered!
For such questions, male subscriber Destiny
[Not wanting much: "empathy"] The most common responses were reactions and empathy
Just reacting well and showing empathy is really
[*Not an excessive reaction, but a mannerly response to the other person] More than 80% of the time, the mood gets better
(From experience) And there's no way the mood wouldn't be good if a girl smiles and reacts well
[Apparently, there are many girls who don't even do this much] It's not about reacting like an audience member, but about smiling, answering
and asking a question back if someone asks you one
That's what reaction and empathy are about
Not just saying "Oh, really?" and then saying what you want to say
(Getting too involved again) "Really? That must have been fun" like that
[Isn't that too hard? / That's amazing / Really funny / Oh, really?] Like this, all of this is empathy and reaction
[A killer move, cheat code] Here's one cheat code: "smizing" (smiling with your eyes)
(Same goes for men smizing) It's not because I smize a lot, it's just that when a person smiles
[Smizing saves the nation] You really look bright and pretty
People want to look pretty, right? That's when I smize
[Viewer: What did I do to deserve this] "Ah, that's really funny" like this
(I don't know what it is) You know what it is?
Just laughing is
'Just laughing' and 'smizing'
Aren't they so different? They're really different
[How do you smize?] Even those who say they can't smize can do it
1. Squint your eyes (like Lee Myung-bak)
2. Smile with your mouth (towards the ears)
[*Caution on the gaze] You shouldn't look at the other person and smile
(Otherwise, you'll really look like Lee Myung-bak) So what you do is
Smizing angle: diagonal downwards
(Getting too involved again 1)
You have to smile like this
Only the crescent moon technique that works from a downward diagonal angle
Everyone, now the last appendix
[Blind date outfit] What should I wear? And I
[Essential items] I'll give you one more tip
The most recommended outfit for a blind date is
[What should I wear for a blind date?] (Top) White shirt or blouse
(Bottom) Jeans or no lace, no floral pattern skirt
[I wore this dress the most] This isn't just my personal opinion, but also that of my male friends
And the guys I became friends with on blind dates
It seems like there's no strong preference
Of course, there are those who prefer skirts too
[For those who like dresses, I also recommend a neat dress!] There are people with pretty legs. For those who still want to wear a skirt
(According to the guys I've met) Many don't prefer floral patterns & excessive shoulder puffs
(Just like I also wore the black puff dress I wanted to wear..) You can wear whatever you want
I'm not the type to say that women have to be a certain way
[I even went out wearing slippers... because I like slippers normally..] I really don't like that
It's my principle that I'll wear what I want to wear
["To give you useful information"] If you're looking for advice for blind dating
(They said ut's much prettier without the puff..) I also had a male friend who didn't like shoulder puffs
It came up as we were talking about the styles of clothes we like
(Floral patterns, too much frills) I have seen several men who don't like floral patterns
[Simple yet sophisticated clothes are the prettiest, right?] Safely go with a white shirt and jeans or skirt underneath
Just a neat skirt, this neatly
No matter what clothes you wear, the most important thing..
Wrinkles noticeable to the extent that it's obvious that it was not ironed
Pilling on knitwear, cardigans
(Things that show if a person is neat) You can somewhat see a person's lifestyle, their living habits
Since you can see whether it's clean or not, that's a bit
[What should I take?] The second thing, really, I
always carry two things in my bag when I go on blind dates
[1. Breath freshener] I've used it all up now
(Seems like I buy it every other week..)
Right before meeting, after eating
(Demonstrating unnecessarily)
Just spray it three times
Available for purchase at convenience stores, Olive Young, pharmacies
[If you talk a lot, and go to a second round, the smell of saliva from the mouth is so bad] Because if the conversation goes well or you go to a second round, you can smell food from the mouth
(Christine's real item) I always carry it with me, especially when I go on blind dates
There was this guy on a blind date who, like me, carried breath freshner
When I sprayed it, he said he also had it and sprayed some too
(Affection 1) Truly, the affection level goes up
(Since childhood, my sister said my mouth smelled like poop, so I'm sensitive) You can tell someone is considerate, a bit neat, from this
(I've seen someone bring a toothbrush set dental floss...) I carry it too, but I really like it when the other person carries a breath freshener
[2. Mini perfume] The second is mini perfume. They give you small ones, like samples
[Mini perfumes given as samples when you buy perfume!] These are so good to carry in your bag
[Perfumes available in small sizes!] There are these small perfumes. I've also used this up now
I really always carry it in my bag when I go on blind dates. Why do I carry it
(Just as much as I like people who smell good, I also wish I smelled good) By the time I leave work, including the time it takes to get there, the perfume is gone
The perfume I carry has a subtle scent
['Chanel - Chance Eau Tendre' has a delicate cherry blossom scent, recommended for blind dates] If you reapply a too strong perfume, it's like suddenly having come back from the bathroom
and it's like, 'Oh no, this happened'
(I remember being a bit embarrassed because the 'Lady Dior' perfume I sprayed was too strong) Before going to the second round (I spray it on my armpits & on the top of my head)
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(No one asked for it) My last cheat key
[@Destiny(Subscriber) : Let's turn it off] I'll wrap up, goodbye